Great news! After 6.5 months of waiting, we finally received word on February 20 that city hall had approved the Pilgrim House renovation project and had issued building permits. Hurray! Our team celebrated with a Spanglish mix of empanadas, angel food cake, strawberries, and aerosol whipped cream (how can anyone not like that stuff?).
Santiago’s city hall – building permits come from here:
On February 26, Jeremy and I met with our builder. He had given us a remodeling estimate months ago, and we’d been waiting for the permits to come through before we could sign a contract with him. Well, at this meeting – the meeting where we thought we might sign the contract – he shocked us with the news that he was going to retire on February 28, just 2 days away. To say we were a bit flummoxed would be an understatement.
The good news was he’d already lined up another builder, and the new builder came over within the hour to meet with us. His name was Jesús Pascual, literally translated as Jesus Easter, which seemed fitting. Pascual was actually slated to work on another project but that project was also waiting for building permits, so he was free to direct our renovations in the meantime. It was amazing timing all around – that we were able to meet with the first builder before he retired, and that we were able to get Jesús Pascual in his downtime. Jeremy signed the contract with Pascual last Friday, February 28, and this Monday his team of builders started demolition. Wow! Between February 20 and March 3 we received our building permits, signed a building contract, and witnessed the start of demolition. I don’t think we’ve ever been part of such a fast-moving process in all our years in Spain.
The front room when we first found Pilgrim House:
The front room today:
The back room before demolition:
The back room yesterday:
We remain grateful for all the milestones we’ve seen on this long journey, and I’ll try to post more photos of the renovations as they happen. Thanks for the encouragement you all have given to our team, both on FB and over email – we cherish it all!
The nice thing about giving a year-end recap two months after the year has ended is that you can reflect on the year with that much more clarity. Right? Well, in 2013, our family picked up some new habits, saw huge progress being made with Pilgrim House, and enjoyed some traveling. Here are some highlights from our year:
1. Dates with the kids
This year we started monthly, one-on-one dates with the kids (I don’t know why we didn’t think of this before?). Each kid went out once a month with either Nate or me, and then went out the next month with the other parent. It meant Nate and I were each going out with two kids a month. Though they weren’t always that talkative, it was great to build in special time with each of them.
2. Finding Pilgrim House
After months of searching for a suitable storefront for Pilgrim House and coming up empty, we finally found the perfect location in the last place we looked. Our deadline had been to find a place by January 31, 2013, and we found this place on…January 31 (phew!). Of course, this being Spain, it wasn’t until May 31 that the rental contract was finally ready, and it wasn’t until August that our architects were able to submit paperwork to apply for building permits:
As of today, we’re still waiting for those building permits to be approved so we can start renovating the space, but we thank God for providing the perfect space for Pilgrim House.
3. Pilgrims everywhere!
One of the best things of 2013 was being able to host and meet up with so many pilgrims from March through November. Even though Pilgrim House wasn’t open yet, and even though at times it was a juggling act between prepping for Pilgrim House and being with pilgrims, we had a stretching, life-giving, and fun high season.
We watched soccer with a group of 9 Azusa Pacific University pilgrims in our home:
We met with pilgrims as a team (and brought the kids because they were out of school for the summer):
And we even got to welcome in family this year. Nate’s cousins, Abby and Megan, walked the Camino in August and stayed with us a few nights:
And Nate’s sister, Andrea (right), and her friend Meg (left), also walked the Camino and stayed with us a few nights. Here they’re sitting in the enormous octopus in La Coruña:
To get to know more of the pilgrims we met in 2013, click here.
With a lot of these pilgrims, we were able to share our newest daily habit: loose-leaf tea. There’s a great tea shop in Santiago called Mistélanea, and through talking with the owners we discovered Rooibos and Cinnamon, Rooibos with Chocolate and Mint, Lapsang Souchong (apparently this was the tea that Sherlock Holmes drank), Rooibos Chai, White Cherry, Té Moruno (green tea with spearmint), and more. Tea was so addicting this year, especially with so many different varieties to try and so many people with whom to share it!
5. Personal retreats
If I hadn’t taken a personal retreat day this day, I would’ve never seen this gentleman walking his pet bird:
Another habit we tried to follow was getting away on personal retreats once every three months. Since both Nate and I feel closest to the Lord when we’re outdoors, our retreats usually brought us to scenic areas in our part of Spain, like the town of Sada above. We got away for a day of solitude and brought our Bibles, journals, and a book or two. We journaled through questions like:
“Is there anyone whose forgiveness I need to seek?”
“Is there anyone I need to forgive?”
“What caused me the most stress this past year? What can I do about it this year?”
“How can I be purposeful these next few months about growing spiritually?”
We found these times of extended reflection and evaluation refreshing and mature-ing, and we look forward to our days away in 2014.
6. Spanish parties
Yeah, this guy is the boss! Look at all that meat! This is what parties in Spain are like, and on several occasions we enjoyed getting together with people from our kids’ clubs and eating pig like there was no tomorrow.
7. ITeams conference in Germany
This year our bi-annual ITeams family conference was held Schwäbisch Gmünd, Germany (pictured above). We enjoyed connecting with our colleagues who work throughout Europe, and we had intensive meetings with our President and other leadership from the ITeams US office. A super-talented team of teachers took care of the kids while we were in meetings, and when we came home K set up her toys like this:
I guess she had a good time, like the rest of us.
8. Team Retreat
In September, we took a team retreat to debrief and plan for the next year. We rented this amazing 16th-century country house for a weekend, and we had meetings during the day and hung out at night. The best part of this house was that everything was furnished from Ikea. So here you had this old, rustic Spanish house from the 1500′s – and most of the furniture and all of the kitchenware was from familiar, comfortable Ikea. It was a hoot.
9. Winter in the US
This was our first winter in the US since 2006, and we felt so blessed to celebrate Christmas, New Year’s, and even Chinese New Year with family. We also saw many friends and supporters and shared with several churches.
For the kids, everything was new and wonderful. They performed the Christmas story with their cousins:
We all participated in an elaborate St. Louis scavenger hunt, designed by Aunt Andrea:
We got to see new cousin M:
And celebrate cousin E’s birthday and read with Gong Gong:
Once again, as we reflect on 2013, we’re grateful for all that we were able to see and do. Here’s to all that lies ahead in 2014, for us, and for you, too!
We’ve had quite a few funny moments since we left Spain, but two really stand out so far:
1. When we boarded the plane in Santiago, M and I started out sitting next to a blind elderly gentleman. The older boys were behind us, and Nate and K were supposed to be across the aisle from them. However, when Nate and K found their seats, a 90-year-old man and his 90-year-old wife were already sitting in them. Nate tried to tell them they were in his seats, but either they didn’t hear or they didn’t bother to try to understand. Nate couldn’t sit and stood in the aisle with K while other passengers went by.
Finally, after everyone else had sat down, Nate asked the flight attendant to come over. “We’re supposed to sit here but there are people in our seats.”
The flight attendant looked at the elderly man and woman and said, “Yeah, that couple is there….they’re not gonna move. We already tried asking them to sit in their real seats but they didn’t listen to us. They came onto the plane and just sat down where they liked…they speak Spanish and I talked to them but they just ignored me. So at this point, it would be easier to move the entire plane than to move them.”
Hahaha what? What kind of flight attendant says that about his passengers?
So guess what he did? He spotted an empty seat two rows ahead and asked the elderly blind man to move! Which meant he had to bend down and ask him to move, help him out of his chair, ask the passenger in the aisle seat in the destination row to get out of his chair, help the blind passenger into his new window seat, and get him settled. He chose to do all of that rather than talk to the uncommunicative and aloof couple again.
It did the trick, though. K ended up sitting with M and me, and Nate sat next to the boys in their row (in all the commotion we’d forgotten that there was an empty seat there). We were all sorted and after a few minutes we finally took off for Geneva, from where we would fly to the US the next day. Thankfully the trip went smoothly after that, but I will never forget that super-honest flight attendant and the angst a couple of 90-year-olds put him through.
Our younger two enjoying the view once we finally got going:
2. One evening we went to a Chinese restaurant with my parents, my brother, and our cousin-in-law visiting from Germany. It was the older boys’ first time really getting into their fortune cookies, and here’s a sampling of the fortunes they received:
“You have a quiet and unobtrusive nature.” (This one was especially funny because it was our loud and incredibly-confident second son that received it.)
“Your home is a pleasant place from which you draw happiness.”
“Serious trouble will bypass you.”
“Your heart is pure, and your mind clear, and soul devout.” (Wow.)
“You will be awarded some great honor.”
“If your desires are not extravagant, they will be granted.”
“You love sports, horses, and gambling but not to excess.”
The last two made Nate and me laugh and laugh. I think the art of fortune-cookie fortune-writing has evolved immensely – or has declined immensely. I can’t tell which. We had a great time at dinner, though. It was good to be with family again.
We left Spain last Saturday to come back to the US for our first Christmas here since 2006. Our two older ones don’t remember American winters and our younger two have never been in the US for winter at all, so it’s been great to experience some “firsts” with the kids:
On the long flight over, M loved having his own video screen on the plane:
The day we arrived in the US there was an ice storm and the next day we woke up to this:
Then it snowed all day. The kids couldn’t believe what snow felt, looked, and played like:
Yeah, they couldn’t wait to get properly dressed and went outside in their pajamas:
First snowman ever!
We’re now on the road, traveling to see friends and supporters, and this has been the kids’ first time being in homes decked out in Christmas decorations. Most Spanish apartments don’t have a lot of storage room, so we can’t keep a lot of decorations around that we only use once a year. But here everyone has boxes of fun Christmas things, and their homes are so inviting and sparkly:
Some other firsts from the past few days: M found my brother’s old Redskins helmet and wore this for about two days straight. He watched videos with his head tilted backward so he could see out of it, but he loved it:
One of the best parts about our trip was the chance to meet our new nephew (2 weeks old here):
And we saw a gigantic package of Reese’s peanut-butter cups, with 2 cups that weigh a half-pound each – that’s crazy! This kind of thing makes America amazing and terrifying at the same time.
Every trip back to the US is full of wonder, and this week has been no different. It’s been a good time so far!
This is the back room of Pilgrim House:
You can tell it needs some work. And even though we can’t wait until this room is filled with people, color, and life, there’s a certain peace there these days.
It’s quiet and still, and the old photos on the wall (its previous renter was a photographer) remind us of its history and possibilities…
…because one day not so long ago, this place was full of activity and purpose – and soon it will be again.